Reflections on a day 20 years ago...

Things in life don't always turn out as we plan. 20 years and 2 days ago I was 33 weeks pregnant with my first child. My husband was the student pastor at a church in Independence, MO and that particular night we were kicking off a new band in our student ministry. With the first strum of the guitar from our resident rocker, Joe T, I felt a leap in my womb. It was a little different than others I had felt but nothing that caused me concern. Clearly the baby liked the music as he continued to be quite active throughout the entire set.

In the middle of the night I began having some back pain, so tried to shift and adjust to ease it a little. Finally I got up early and began getting ready for work. My back pain didn't subside. In fact it was oddly consistent - like every 5 minutes or so. At my husband's insistence I called the doctor, all the while reminding him I wasn't due for another 7 weeks, so couldn't possibly be in labor. To my dismay, the doctor sided with my husband and insisted we meet him at the hospital. We did and the nurses went to work hooking me up to all kinds of monitors, not letting me get out of bed for anything. They even ignored me when I reminded them that I wasn't due until May 10. Clearly they knew something that I couldn't wrap my mind around just yet. I was in labor.

One ambulance ride, 11 hours of intravenous magnesium to stop labor (which only slowed it down), several nurse and doctor shift changes, an additional 22 1/2 hours of labor, many phone calls and a good amount of screaming (no childbirth classes) later, our son was born. Robert Alexander Bickford, March 26, 10:35am, nearly 7 weeks early. He was perfect. My life was forever changed.

It's hard to imagine that my tiny baby turns 20 years old today. He had so many challenges ahead of him, not the least of which was learning how to breathe and eat. He's a fighter though. A very strong-willed, persistent, passionate go-getter. I've always believed that God had a plan for him from the beginning. He protected Alex's life because He had big plans for his future.

Alex still jumps with the first strum of the guitar. He's a musician. A very talented one. It's exciting, and frightening at times, to watch how God is shaping him, molding him to be the man He wants him to be. And the journey of his life isn't lost on me. God has used Alex to mold and shape me as well. With his first breath I had a clearer understanding of God's love for me. Motherhood has challenged me. It has required me to surrender my plans in order for God's plans to be fulfilled. I haven't been the perfect Mom - not even close. I've learned more about redemption and trust through some very difficult situations. It's been hard, no doubt. But definitely a blessing. I'm thankful that God chose me to be Alex's mom. I am a better person because of it.

Interrupted...

I just finished reading Interrupted: An Adventure in Relearning the Essentials of Faith by Jen Hatmaker. I highly recommend it, especially if you are seeking God's plan for your life/future. Here are some of the highlights that stood out to me:

• Change is a fact of life. ...whether it comes from a revolution, a movement or a ripple. Change is a reality, and we're living right in the middle of it.
• God does not change, but he uses change - to change us.
• Jesus didn't just host and serve the meal; He became the meal.
• Brokenness hurts.
• In order for God's Kingdom to come, my kingdom has to go.
• He is the new I was craving when I realized my heart was dry.
• This vision is not for here. There's already a vision here. I'm giving you a new one.
• I discovered the journey was not only about something new but also about being willing to go even before we knew where we were going.
• Part of our task was going without knowing. As much as we wanted clear marching orders, the command was: Tell first, find clarity later.
• Never have we stood with such open hands, clinging to nothing, ready for anything.
• There is a freedom in not being in control, when something utterly imagined by God is coming for you. It's exciting, sort of awful. 
• It is not your responsibility to explain what God is doing with your life. Turn loose and let God be God.
• This is not just about doing church; it's about being the church.
• Church is not a place you go, it's a people you belong with.
• Living on mission where you've been sent will transform your faith journey.

This sums up what's going on with us right now. Something else Jen said she learned through her own journey was that He will tell us what we need to know when we need to know it. I find great peace in that truth. 

Reflections on our time in Texas

Some observations I made over the past week:

1. It really is Big Sky Country. (If you've never been to TX, this will not make sense.)
2. People drive MUCH faster on the highways in TX (regardless of the speed limit).
3. Motorcyclists still do not wear helmets.
4. Southern Hospitality is unique to this place. (Didn't realize how much I miss it.)
5. Sweet tea is better in TX.
6. Deb R. still has the best salsa!
7. We picked up where we left off with our dearest friends. (Such a blessing.)
8. Fish City did not disappoint.
9. My son is at home in TX and surrounded by people who love him.
10. I miss the beautiful sound of the spanish language.
11. We are loved in TX.

God is God and i am not

It's been over 3 years and I figured it's about time I start blogging again. In recent days, God has been doing a work in the life of my husband and I. He has directed us to make a big change. We are stepping out in faith to follow what we believe to be his call on our lives. It may sound crazy to some, at times it sounds crazy to me. But I am confident of this - He is faithful and has promised to never leave us. He reminds me not to be anxious. Luke 12:22-34.

For Women Only

I met with a group of ladies from my church tonight. We are doing an 8 week study of the book "For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn. It was great to hear all their different perspectives, to see how they've grown as wives and to hear how they want to do things better if this is their second time around. I look forward to each of us learning how to understand our husbands better and seeing how that brings about change in our own lives. Should be a fun ride!

Not the Final Word

…maybe just on this subject for now. Talking about the intimate relationship between husbands and wives has been a challenge for me but I have thoroughly enjoyed it. One thing I’ve learned is what may seem so simple to some is so difficult for others. There are so many hurting people searching for answers. Many times I felt at a loss because I want to help so badly but don’t have all the answers. I can say I’ve been praying for those who have read my blog this week.

This isn’t it for me in the blogging world though. I’m hooked! I do think to say I’ll continue every single day is a bit ambitious. But I’d love it if you’d keep checking in with me. There are lots of areas that I’d like to comment on and hopefully lend a helping hand along the way.

Disclaimer

He says it best.